Women hold 5.6% of CEO positions at S&P 500 companies. Of the large technology companies in the United States, 30% of the workers are women. 17% of start-up founders are women. Additionally, California, New York, and Massachusetts are the top three states where venture capital deals take place, with over 2,800 deals in 2016.

As a woman running two companies, based in New Mexico, it is hard for me to handle the reality of these types of statistics. All I can do is read the headlines and keep going with my day, because if I read on, I want to curl up and cry. Running my two businesses is a lot of work.

Just being a start-up CEO is ridiculously hard and it takes a ridiculously long amount of time to get anything done. If I were to add being a woman to the equation, I wouldn’t do it. I would instead stick with my sweet little New Mexico business. However, I need to know these statistics, and digest them without wanting to give up. I need to know these numbers so that I can call people out on the bullshit they say.

A survey was recently published in the New York Times regarding the appropriateness of a variety of situations in which men and women are often alone together. Nearly half of men and women found one-on-one drinks, dinners, lunches to be inappropriate. This is insane to me. Having drinks, lunch, dinner, or even just socializing with a potential investor, co-worker, or any other businessman is essential to the perpetuation of mine, or really any, company. Part of one’s power in business is their ability to choose who they do business with. Socializing, drinks, lunches and dinners are simply a part of this selection process.

In the past few weeks a number of women in tech and founders have come forward with stories of harassment. Stories that were surprising, shocking, to some people. Following these blog posts, articles, tweets, and stories, I was asked to participate in a survey developed by Lincoln Park Strategies and Women Who Tech about the culture within tech workspaces.

The images below show some of the survey data outcomes. If you are surprised at what you see, I guess I believe you, but open your eyes, and check yourself and your peers. This shit happens all day, every day and the sooner we ALL start speaking up about it, and calling each other out, the less common it will be.